Monday, January 12, 2009

This one might offend you

Online dating, that's the topic today. Dr. Zibbs of That Blue Yak asked me if I've ever tried online dating. I realize I have no proof to back up what I'm about to say, but it is my belief and I'm sorry if it offends anyone who has done online dating.

I believe online daters are mediocre looking. The really ugly people tend to find one another eventually and so do the good looking people. I would say in terms of looks I'm in the top 20%, classifying me as a good looking person who will eventually just meet someone the old-fashioned way. My friend M met her boyfriend online. She was only 22 when she was online looking for someone. Are was as woman too ready to get married? Just let it happen on it's own. I know I talk about being single on this blog, but the truth is, I hate more being single in this town because there isn't much to do. We don't have nice restaurants, a sports team, shows, seriously there isn't a whole lot to do. But I honestly don't mind being single. Eventually I hope to find a great guy, and I have NO problem holding out until he comes along.

And that my friends is why I don't do online dating. Plus I want that great how we met story, and leaving some things up to chance.

12 comments:

Miss Fabulous said...

have you read my blog today? haha... you are making me seriously rethink ever trying it again. The selection of guys is really bad - (girls for the most part too - but it's not all ugly girls!) :) I just love the idea of handpicking a guy... I mean - in theory it's great. I think you've just convinced me to stay old fashioned... although the bars are full of ugly people too. boo.

Dr Zibbs said...

Thanks for the shout out.

Smartass said...

While I agree, I also think online dating is for people who want more then one relationship at a time. Everyone that I have know that has a profile tend to date a lot and a lot of people. I could never do the online dating scene, too risky.

dater x said...

I don't think I'm mediocre, but that's up to the guys I see. But I like to date from online and from in person, don't get me wrong. But you do have some good insights.

But for me, I'm not looking for Mr. Right but rather Mr. Right Now. And sometimes guys are too whiny to get that concept and a girl needs to take action.

slopmaster said...

there's ugly people everywhere. But you make a good point. You shouldn't do online dating unless you're ready to get married, that's just a desperate move. Or unless you want some random hookup.

Also, that "I want a good story of how we met thing" is important, I think.

Elwood said...

I met my only girlfriend online. We never chatted or anythign like that. I just read her profile, e-mailed her to meet for beer and went for there. Inteh edn it was just like a blind date.

I don't find myself ugly but I do notice, being an avid searcher on those sites, that, at least for the women, a lot of them (>50%) are very overweight.

Sparks said...

oh, i have to comment on this one! i am a reformed online dater, and you are right on the money - or at least very close.

i was very anti-internet dating until a few friends signed up, and - looking over their shoulders - i saw some pics of serious hotties! turns out - those people never matched up to their pictures in person.... but more important, even if they were attractive (and to be fair, a few really were), they had at least one serious personality flaw. (liar, creeper, etc...)

the funny thing is, realizing i was way too good for all the internet guys made me feel so much more confident around guys i meet in person, which helped my dating life in the long run. haha!

d said...

I agree. I am COMPLETELY against online dating for myself even though I think it works for some people.

Just something I would never do to be honest. And I never say never, but for this topic? I can most assuredly say never.

Andy said...

I'd say it's an individual, unique thing- one person might have a bad experience, another might have a great one. Capricorn and I met online, four months ago. She's gorgeous, so at least that's one person. But many, many of them aren't, so I see your point.

Andy said...

I responded to your post with one my own, giving the take from the other side. Kudos to you for taking a stance on this one, even if I don't agree with it lol

Muffy Willowbrook said...

I agree - online dating never wow'd me much either. Keep doing what you're doing....it'll come.

choofy said...

i have mixed feelings. i tried it to hand pick guys after meeting one after another that didn't match me on the basics, but now i realize enough can't be said about chemistry, its unpredictability and ability to stir our souls. having tried it, i see dating differently and have some awful/funny stories.

there were a lot of mediocre guys and their friends, but the world is full of schmucks. trust your gut like the real world and move on to the next.

i can name at least two amazing couples that were married off match.com. they're the ones that give me hope for the random search every now and then.

a sweet story about how you met is nice, but that's the least important thing!